Like many parents who have spent the summer with their children, I’m counting down the hours before the start of school. I will also be participating in a school of sorts. Next week, I start a writers’ workshop that runs for a couple of months. I’ve attended writers’ workshops before and have a pronounced aversion to them.
The Loft Literary Center has, with a sheer stroke of agoraphobic genius (and for those of us who loathe trying to find parking downtown), added online workshops to its curriculum. No more trying to avert my eyes while listening to Lonely Dude’s awkward porn (did I date you?). No need to doodle while Ms. Trivial Pursuit details her pedicure and why it makes her feel oh so pretty. No more gritting teeth through “foreshadowing that solves your mystery on the first page” mysteries. I have to admit, I’m a really unhelpful workshop colleague. I have a problem that has plagued me most of my life. The human voice puts me to sleep. And when I must stay awake against my natural inclination to snooze, I get downright mean.
I have never been a particularly good student. When I started college after my Army stint, I was determined to be the student I thought I should be, but it only took one professor to put me into a coma. He was about 400 years old and read his lecture from a binder while sitting at a desk. His notes made a crinkly sound, dried from age and repeated use. It was Ancient Near Eastern History loaded up with Sobekhoteps and Mentuhoteps, so my class notes were neatly written for about half a notebook page before a single line slid down to the bottom of the page, ending with a spot of drool, like the period on an exclamation point.
Even in classes with charismatic teachers, it was only guaranteed that I would finish one page of notes before spending the rest of the time fidgeting, prying my eyelids open and imagining what various pairings of classmates would look like if they were to have sex. Hey – I’d rather be a mental perv than snort myself awake to an entire classroom of people staring at me. My fear was not exaggerated – it really happened to me. Twice.
My nodding off has not been limited to the academic world. I headed off into the business world engaged and enthused until the very first meeting – company orientation. I stayed focused long enough to figure out when I would get paid and where the table with the bagels was located. I dread meetings around conference tables, where everyone can see my head lolling and then snapping to attention as I try to keep myself awake. It’s sheer torture.
The only theory that I have about this problem, is that I like to fall asleep listening to books on tape and sometimes news on the radio. I’ve been doing this since I was a kid, when I would hoard a little transistor under my pillow. As an adult, I listen to anything read by Jim Dale (the Harry Potter audiobook reader) or the news on NPR and I conk out. I’m no good in churches, concerts where there’s too much verbal “fill”, plays that don’t do frequent scenery changes and technology discussions with my husband (okay, that might be about the subject matter). I can read for hours on end, but read to me and you’ve got a small window before my nose starts softly whistling and my head flops forward.
Sometimes you just have to embrace your limitations and find solutions to work around them. The online forum might very well be the place I learn best. At the very least, I’m hoping to be a kinder, more professional workshop classmate. Just don’t expect me at any of your readings.
6 thoughts on “Back-to-School Special: The AB…ZZZZZZZZZs”
lol, alright! understood. => I appreciate that you know yourself so well.
On occasion, knowing myself so well makes me want to be someone else! Thanks for reading!
I think I can relate, although with me a lot has to do with seriously broken hearing. But even when I can, human speech just seems such an inefficient way to communicate information.
For example, recently I was trying to watch a video blog post on a topic that seemed interesting. I gave up at about the 6:30-ish minute mark. All the information presented by that point would have fit in a handful of sentences had I been reading. And taken less than a minute to read. But it took over six minutes of listening and watching a talking head.
I agree that a lot of verbal exchanges are loaded with unnecessary fill. I’m a pretty horrendous listener even when it’s one-on-one, if the story gets too long or too many details are referenced, I want to shriek “shorthand it”! OCD talkers, of which I know a few, run like this “when I went to the garage sale on Saturday, no maybe it was Thursday, because I took the dog to the vet after I picked up groceries…” They’ve lost my attention and then I go into auto-mode, uh-huh, sure, right (spaced appropriately apart, of course), while trying not to stab myself in the head with a fork. I have another relative who has severe hearing loss and I have to say, being forced to write things down, hand signal and use the words I know she can hear and understand, is a preferable way of communicating. We make eye contact, we get to the point and we understand each other very well.
Understand. Agree. Read science fiction story. Very smart aliens. Used necessary words only. Short sentences; much meaning. Liked it!