Fearless Friday: The Importance of Curiosity

Currently, I’m slogging through Douglas Hofstadter’s Gödel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Braid. I say slog because it’s a challenge, heavy on the math and science of formal systems and their connections. This is the kind of reading I regularly do, even if I come away with a muddied sense of things. How is the world connected? What does this or that mean? I feel an odd sense of joy in reaching middle age with more questions than answers.

Curiosity is a skill like any other. It has to be practiced and encouraged. Children are naturally curious, but somewhere along the way, we teach ourselves to be cynical sophisticates who stop asking why? The culture, too, is teaching us the immediate gratification of having information spoon fed to us. Not asking questions or researching for our own answers impacts our brains and it impacts how we understand the world. Many of us are simply wrong, basing our judgment on faulty and/or incomplete information. Curiosity is the basis of critical thinking. And we need it more in the world than ever.

Welcome to Fearless Friday.

Feacanstockphoto13410470rless Fridays are about lives lived in spite of our fears, living a life that is about curiosity, compassion, and courage. If you just got published, something wonderful happened to you, you witnessed an act of kindness or bravery, or you have someone in your life who amazes you, drop your story into my contact page or email it to TheGreenStudy (at) comcast (dot) net and I’ll run it on a Fearless Friday. If you’re a blogger, it’s an opportunity to advertise your blog, but this is open to anyone who would like to share.  These will be 100-300 word stories, subject to editing for clarity and space.

Teach Our Children Well

mcbd_poster_nameFINAL (002).jpgCuriosity begins as children, so that’s where I’m going to start. Today is Multicultural Children’s Book Day. One of my writer friends, Carolyn at Wise Owl Factory has jan-25-twitter-party-2019-win-bookswritten children’s books about multicultural adoption and has a fantastic website of resources for parents and teachers. Literacy and representation matters. Little humans are curious, but like adults, they are most curious about themselves – how do I fit into the world? Who can I identify with? Who do I look to for example?

As a side note: There’s apparently a lot of free goodies if you pay attention to #readyourworld on Twitter. Great opportunity for parents, grandparents, and teachers.

Curiosities for Grownups, Too

canstockphoto31504305If you want to really challenge yourself, read Valerie Tarico’s latest post “The Righteousness and The Woke – Why Evangelicals and Social Justice Warriors Trigger Me in the Same Way“. I forced myself to read it even as I bristled at the title – I find myself extremely sensitive to the fallacy of both sides, as if they are equal and only two. But her post is very thoughtful, boiling down to a lack of critical awareness when you become so dogmatic in your thinking that no light can come in. That is what curiosity does – it lets in the light, airs out the room, allows space for nuance and change. But more importantly it doesn’t make it easy for us to categorize and dismiss other humans.

On a lighter note, I’ve mentioned her blog before, but Ellen Hawley over at Notes from the UK always makes me laugh. She writes of the sometimes very odd stories that emerge from over there. As a writer, I never read one of her posts without coming away with a story idea.

Curiosity from a Writing Perspective

I’ve learned this year that if I ever experienced writer’s block, I no longer can. One of the exercises we do at writing group is a random selection of subjects and a timed writing session writing either an essay or short story around the subject. I wasn’t particularly good in the beginning, feeling the panic that any effort to time or rush me inspires. I used to poo-poo writing prompts as an individual exercise, because I always had something I wanted to write, even if it were laborious. But not when it came to writing fiction.

canstockphoto31420073One of the tools we use is The Storymatic, a collection of cards containing characters, items, odd situations. We draw random cards and there’s our story basis. It’s a muscle you learn to use – making up things on the spot. We’re training ourselves to be pathological liars on paper. The outcome is not only a stronger skill set, but in the aftermath, I end up with vignettes of potential characters to develop, plot lines to follow, and narratives that could be more.

So be curious about what you’re capable of, have patience, and be open to things you’ve made fun of in the past. That’s a lot of work for me. I make fun of everything and then have to shamefacedly turn around and say, oh, that really worked. The lesson is: what you mock today, might be something entirely worthwhile the minute you start being curious.

13 thoughts on “Fearless Friday: The Importance of Curiosity

  1. Curiosity may have killed the Cat as the old saying goes, but without it, we certainly wouldn’t be where we are today. It was seeing things that made out ancestors figure out how they worked. Without seeing how fire operated, we still be in the caves, cold, wet, hungry, and in the dark. Without seeing that sharp things cut things, the knife would never have been figured and toothless twenty years old would have starved to death way back when. Curiosity is a good thing, especially in today’s world where some folks think we’ll believe anything they say. it was important to our survival back then. It’s even more so today.


    1. I keep thinking about the things that keep our brain elastic and adaptable. When you talk about survival, that’s what a lot of it is – adaptability. So often I meet people who have decided that they’re done learning or that they can’t learn and I can’t imagine being that incurious. The more I learn, the more I am aware of what I don’t know and I kind of enjoy pursuing the knowledge. But curiosity is definitely linked to critical thinking and wow – I don’t know how you teach that to people who think they know everything they need to know.


  2. I absolutely agree that being curious is ever so worthwhile and undervalued by adults in our world. It seems nowadays to be all about the speed with which you can do things; about productivity and results rather than the processes by which we reach those ends. I know that whenever I have felt curious I have simultaneously felt wonderful – it’s like a reminder that in fact that world still holds wonder for me and there is that which still intrigues me, no matter my age! Loved this post 🙂 🙂


    1. You mention a key point – the issue of speed. The other issue would be distraction. If you’re moving too fast or are looking down at your phone, you miss a lot of details. There’s no room for curiosity. This is the advantage of being a tortoise versus a hare – there’s time to notice details. That the world should continue to hold wonder is a lovely thought.

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      1. Absolutely agree! That’s true about our phones too. There’s not much to feel curious about if you know what you’re going to be looking at – what apps and what to expect – day in and day out. Thank you for raising this.

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  3. Thank you for the shout out. Even more, thank you for extolling the virtues of curiosity. People talk lately about focusing education on what they call the 4 c’s: Critical Thinking, Communication, Collaboration, and Creativity. It pains me that Curiosity and Compassion aren’t numbers 5 and 6 on the list–the how to keep learning, and the high level why (purpose) of it all. When I was raising my daughters, I said that my to top goals were to cultivate kindness and curiosity. All else, to my mind, is secondary.


    1. I think of curiosity and kindness as the sources from which all other things flow. Without them, it’s simply not possible to truly learn or to cultivate a pattern of openness. I have a teenage daughter and I hope a practice those things enough to make a lasting impression.

      I enjoy reading your posts – I always feel just a tad smarter when I’m done. Plus, you tackle some really tough, touchy topics and I admire that. I feel like a celebrity just commented on my blog. I’m such a nerd!

      Thanks for stopping by and best wishes!


  4. I never liked that proverb about the cat and curiosity – it always struck me that lack of curiosity would be more dangerous. Agree totally about starting early in life – and being allowed to make mistakes is a big part of learning. I liked this: “I feel an odd sense of joy in reaching middle age with more questions than answers.” The incurious probably end up with those reversed!


  5. Another long spell of not being able to look at blogs. I don’t understand the aversion, or why today I looked instead of deleting. *Sigh*

    Gentle curiosity is most needed with ourselves in moments just like this.


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