I’ve written 20 partial posts and deleted them all. My world got smaller as my health deteriorated over the last year. Cognitively, I’m playing catch up and while I can recite what my oxygen levels have been for the last week, I can’t remember a single line of poetry, except for a little Wordsworth:
I wandered lonely as a cloud.
Perhaps I return here because I feel a peculiar kind of loneliness. There is an isolation borne of chronic health conditions. I feel myself tense up when someone asks How are you? So tired of focusing on my health and ongoing issues, I’ve learned to mutter I’m fine.
I’m not fine, but I’m okay. And what is going on with me is survivable, so perhaps there is no need for a dramatic re-entry into my life. You were gone?
The tumbling down started last year when frequent hot flashes, cognitive fog, and insomnia started. Hormones, amiright? By the time I went the HRT route and got those symptoms under control, I got hit with tinnitus – a loud, high squeal at about 8000 Hz, sometimes manic cicadas, but always on. I went through some cognitive behavioral therapy to learn how to background the noise, and to learn how to sleep and work with it. Got that under control. Then got diagnosed with sleep apnea. I’ve spent the last month getting intimate with a breath robot (CPAP therapy).
If you read this and think holy shit, this person is a mess, I would swear to you that up until last year, I felt pretty okay. My chief indicators that I’m doing alright in my life have always been writing and running. If I’m doing those two things, I’m alright. They are activities layered in dust now. I finally started strength training again last week, but I’ve lost a lot of ground. And, as you can read here, my writing isn’t exactly hitting a bestselling list anytime soon.
Whatever image one might have of oneself, there will be a time when all will be brought into question. I’ve been humbled and demoralized. On the upside, I’ve gained greater empathy for people who suffer much more than I with isolating conditions and visible/invisible disabilities. That’s how it always goes – we don’t often feel in our bones for other people until we suffer ourselves. Humans, geesh.
For me there is only this: Begin again. And again. And again. I am adapting to the new guidelines and rules in my life that keep me sane and healthy, as most of us do. I’m going for a short run tomorrow and writing here. It’s a bit lumpy and unimpressive but life, like writing, is always a draft in revision.